If there is one thing I’ve learned from those who have coached me throughout the years it is that human nature dictates that if you have a desire to give back to see others grow, you must also have a willingness to make enough of an investment into those you mentor to allow yourself to be let down by them.
People convince themselves (without knowing it) that they have gotten everything they need out of an experience before getting to the good stuff and will oftentimes give up early when they think they have nothing more to know or gain. At which point a back stab can appear to be a more attractive ‘gain’ – even though it ends up preventing them from growing.
Experience is the best teacher, if you have a sadistic desire to raise up design founders the question is never IF your protégé is going to stab you in the back, the question is WHEN they will (and how deeply). If you are coaching someone who you don’t ultimately want to excel past you, you are in this for the wrong reasons altogether.
You really have to have been burnt a few times as a coach before you can have that kind of mature and sober perspective about it – Once I obtained that, I was able to be a much better coach to those I’d bring under my wing. Knowing that it is a WHEN and not an IF has brought a lot of insight and discernment into my practice.
Join rethinkCAFÉ in collaboration with The London Design Festival and the Service Design Fringe Festival as we host Service Design Sprints‘ first West Coast Sprint Master’s bootcamp round on September 19th from our incubator space located in the heart of San Diego’s historic Gaslamp district. Early bird tickets are still available.